Fifty First Dates After Fifty: A Memoir

by: Carolyn Lee Arnold (0)

What does a free-spirited, fifty-something professional do when she breaks up with her non-committal Buddhist boyfriend and longs for a life partner? She holds a ‘letting go’ ceremony with the boyfriend, challenges herself to go on 50 dates, takes a few lovers, and voila! Finding Mr. Right becomes a sexy dating project.

Set in the SF Bay Area world of personal growth workshops and spiritual ceremonies,
Fifty First Dates after Fifty traces the adventurous path of Carolyn’s universal quest for love. The goal of fifty pulls her forward through the highs and lows of dating—magical and ecstatic, pining and painful—while her heart soars, falls, and keeps on going. Buoyed by her dating project, she avoids settling for the wrong guy, discovers the type of man she wants, reconciles a love of independence and sex with her desire for commitment and emotional connection, and finds the unique partner for her.

This upbeat memoir about the search for a partner in midlife is also a celebration of a woman’s unabashed sexuality. Erotic in places, funny in others, it offers a positive view of dating as an enjoyable journey of self-discovery and self-love along the way to one’s own Mr. Right.

The Reviews

I enjoyed reading Carol's adventures. A fun read.

Arnold evokes the freedom of life after fifty in this highly readable memoir. Engage in her unsinkable quest to go on fifty dates and write about each one. The support she found along the way enabled her to write a brave book that is sure to inspire other Women of a Certain Age. This memoir is an invitation to set aside the negative social messages about life after fifty and to live every day of our lives. Highly recommended!

This is both a feel-good book about learning to love and a great story of suspense. The author sustained my attention throughout with her lively narrative, ideas for how to date, and helpful tips about attraction while remaining authentic. I learned about new approaches for enjoying sex. I learned about being able to say yes or no in an easy, non-confrontational way.This story sustained my attention. Who would she date next? Would he be the right partner? I was hoping all along that she would find her partner through moments of hope and moments of disappointment. For me a good story needs to have a good ending. This one does, but not before all that the author must go through and learn. Through the loneliness and doubt, there is great exuberance when she finds her match.The author is thoughtful, respectful, and playful. Her stories were moving and brought tears of joy to my eyes at the end. It was a sacred connection she finally made.

i enjoyed the storytelling and descriptions of her dating adventures and relationship discoveries.

I had no idea what to expect when I started reading this book, and I confess that at first, I was a little taken aback by the scope of the author's dating life, which is so different from my own experience with and perspective on love, relationships, and sex. But as I kept reading, I saw so much of our shared humanity, our shared desires, our shared connection, and I came away with a deep appreciation for Arnold and her story. She writes with comfortable prose, clarity of purpose, and unabashed honesty; her introspection couples with an indomitable thirst for intimacy in all its forms as she chronicles the gradual evolution of her self, her goals, and how she grew into fullness -- how she figured out what she wanted for herself and then actively worked to turn it into reality. Not only is her journey entertaining, but it is hopeful, helpful, and filled with great joy.

Although I am over 70, Fifty First Dates After Fifty, resonated with me. It reflected the path and questions I had to answer to find the life style and relationships that I wanted in my life, as well. It was a FUN quick read, and you definitely want to read it to the end to find out how Carolyn evolves through her dates, and years of dating. If you are 30 to 90, and find yourself wanting special people, or a special person in your life, this book could give you the knowledge that it is possible to obtain.

Jarring! Explosive! Seductive! FANNY HILL move over. You've met your match in FIFTY FIRST DATES AFTER FIFTY. I couldn't put it down until author Carolyn Lee Arnold seduced date #50 just before she turned sixty.A 21st century update of the woman's sexual revolution of the 1960s. Arnold has written an extraordinarily truthful story of a woman's desire to open up her heart and body to fifty men in her pursuit of a long-lasting partner who, like her, doesn't believe in monogamy.Fifty years ago female sexual empowerment was inspired by Betty Friedan's THE FEMININE MYSTIQUE and made possible by THE PILL. It was revolutionary for women to have sexual rights, to be free to "sleep around" even to have "open marriages." Fifty years later Carolyn Lee Arnold honors that sexual revolution with an updated version of female empowerment.

In Fifty First Dates After Fifty, Carolyn Lee Arnold takes you on a rollicking yet serious ride through the author’s two-year search for a loving, “sex-positive” life partner. For many readers, it’ll be a fascinating introduction to a lifestyle of open marriage and sexual exploration. For others, it may be a New Age guide to an adventuresome middle age. Above all, it’s a sensitive woman’s quest to find her best and most complete self.The author’s descriptions of her sexual encounters are frank and explicit, yet more factual than erotic. Of course, the lifestyle isn’t for everyone, but this memoir is thought-provoking on many levels. Primarily, the author is looking for a companion who shares her values, accepts her as a person, respects her freedom, and supports her need to expand her horizons. She’s simply not willing to accept the limitations our society usually places on women over fifty.You may not want to live Carolyn Lee Arnold’s lifestyle, but her memoir will open your mind to understanding those who do. Highly readable and entertaining, it reminds the reader of her own potential to explore and grow in every aspect of her life. Maybe the author’s courage will motivate you to pursue an adventure that fits your lifestyle. Give it a try!

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